Brilliant Beginnings helps support surrogates, and their intended parents, through every step of their surrogacy journeys. For surrogates, this means making sure you are informed about what to expect, who you’ll be working with and how we will support you. To help you get to grips with how we, as a surrogacy agency, will support you as a surrogate, we have outlined our matching and management process below. If you prefer to speak to someone directly, you can contact us by email or by phone.
We offer a personal approach, understanding that every match has unique needs. In order to support you as a surrogate, we will ensure there is clarity and honesty from everyone including:
There are some preliminary requirements to be a Brilliant Beginnings surrogate, which aim to protect your wellbeing as a surrogate, and which reflect our ability to match you with our intended parents. If you meet those requirements we encourage you to submit an application form. Once you’ve returned this short questionnaire, we can talk about the journey ahead.
Medical screening is a necessity of surrogacy, as it is in all cases of IVF. This is done to ensure the safety of you as a surrogate, as well as the baby you are planning to carry.
If you have a medical condition for which you are being treated, you may be precluded from becoming a surrogate, although some conditions and treatments can be managed during pregnancy without risk to you or the baby. Additionally, surrogates over the age of 35 will need extra medical screening. We also operate with an upper age limit of 45, given the greater risk of pregnancy complications as you get older.
One of the questions that we get most from potential surrogates is: how do I choose which intended parents to help? We can’t tell you who to work with, and never would, but we can support you in making that decision. You want to work with intended parents you feel comfortable with, and personalities can be a significant factor.
There are many different kinds of families who need the help of a surrogate, such as:
Some may have children already. Some may have met later in life. Some may have spoken to families and friends while others may have chosen to share their plans further down the line.
Although we will discuss who you do (and do not) want to work with as part of our matching and management service, there are a few questions that you can consider ahead of time including:
As a Brilliant Beginning surrogate, we will help you to find the right intended parents through our personalised matching process. This ensures that each match is done to make sure that everyone is aligned in their approach as much as possible. We match on big things, like views on termination or treatment or pregnancy preferences, as well as the no less critical nuances, like geography, personality and lifestyle.
This establishes a strong bedrock from which a foundation of trust and friendship can develop. You will be given lots of information about the intended parents we think would be a great fit for you and you will have the chance, before meeting them, to decide if it feels right. They too will have this opportunity so that by the time you do meet, you will have a clear picture of each other.
Our role at Brilliant Beginnings is to help you find the right intended parents to work with, and to support you at every step. We take this very seriously and want to make sure that you are fully supported in every avenue of your life whilst you are a surrogate.
Some of that support will come from us, but it will also come from the other professionals you will come into contact with, along with your friends and family.
We start every surrogate’s journey with a detailed discussion with you about your background and your wishes.
We will take you through:
We will also answer your questions and make sure you have all the information you need to make an informed decision about whether surrogacy is right for you. We will then meet with you, and your partner if you have one, via Skype or Facetime as well as face-to-face in your home.
In order to make sure that you have all the advice you need, all our surrogates are prepared, medically and psychologically, and we provide you with professional surrogacy preparation counseling (together with your partner if you have one) as well as independent legal advice.
You will also have the opportunity to speak to one of our experienced surrogates about their journey and what to expect.
Assuming you are happy with everything up to this point, you will then be a part of our Brilliant Beginnings surrogate community and will be able to connect online with our other surrogates.
Having got to know you (and the intended parents we work with) we will suggest a one-to-one match. We share the profile information of intended parents with you who we think may be a good match for you. We will also prepare a profile for you which, with your agreement, we will share with the potential intended parents we have in mind. If you both want to meet, we will facilitate a match meeting. If you all decide to move forward, we will give you support in getting to know each other and establishing a relationship based on mutual trust, respect and friendship for as long as is needed.
Once you have been matched, there are lots of issues for you to discuss as a group, and it is critical that you take the time to get to know your intended parents.
Key issues will need to be explored and discussed. Our job is to guide, steady and support you throughout this.
The law does not allow us, even as a non-profit making agency, to negotiate the specific terms of your surrogacy agreement, but we will give you guidance and information to help you work out the terms of your agreement and to put this in writing (with our team including a professionally-qualified mediator).
Once your agreement is in place, we will support you all throughout the journey. This means help with the practicalities including the fertility treatment, giving practical advice on how to deal with doctors and hospitals and what to do at the birth registration and through the parental order.
It also means we are there at every step to give encouragement, reassurance and support whenever needed, and continuing to facilitate the communication between you to help you deal with any issues that arise. The team are all here to be with you, to cheer you on your way and to hold your hand when you need us. Being a surrogate is an amazing thing, and you don't need to navigate the process alone.
If you still have questions about being a surrogate, we are happy to speak with you. Alternatively, you can find more information about being a BB surrogate here: