FAQs for UK surrogates

Is surrogacy for me?

balloonsBeing a surrogate is an incredible gift to a family and the rewards can be lifelong. Nevertheless, it is emotionally and physically demanding. You will need to consider what support you will have throughout your pregnancy and after delivery, and what practical and emotional help you will have from your partner, your family and your friends. You will also need to think carefully about the medical, legal, emotional and practical issues of being a surrogate and carrying a child for someone else. You will need to think about how being a surrogate affects your existing children if you have them, as well as any effect on your partner.  Our surrogacy preparation counselling will help with this. Our experience shows that this sets up your relationship with your intended parents so that it is mutually happy and fulfilling.

Will I be out of pocket?

No, is the short answer. Your intended parents should as a minimum pay for all your reasonable expenses which might include:

  • Loss of earnings for you and your partner
  • Maternity clothes
  • Travel costs for both you and your family, which you might have if you visit your intended parents
  • Travel and accommodation costs for attending clinic and hospital appointments
  • Counselling or professional support in connection with your pregnancy
  • Wills and life insurance fees
  • Legal fees
  • Additional child care costs
  • A modest recuperation break for you and your family 
  • Any other expenses during your pregnancy and after the birth.

Find out more about our approach to expenses if you are a Brilliant Beginnings surrogate.

Are there any criteria for becoming a surrogate?

Yes. To be a Brilliant Beginnings surrogate, you need to be in good health, with an optimum BMI of between 19 and 28 (with a maximum of 35 and a minimum of 19). You must also be a non-smoker. You must not have any medical problems or be on any medication which could put you or the child at risk during pregnancy. If you have a medical condition for which you are being treated, you may be precluded from becoming a surrogate. However, some conditions and treatments can be managed throughout a pregnancy without risk to you or the baby.

The upper age limit is 50 although, given the greater risk of pregnancy complications as you get older, surrogates over the age of 35 will need extra medical screening. We do not accept surrogates under the age of 18 and will only in exceptional cases accept surrogates under the age of 21. 

We do not accept surrogates who have a criminal record or are known to social services.  You must have had at least one successful pregnancy resulting in a child who is living with you, and you must be well supported and in a financially and personally stable living situation.

You must be screened by us and a professional counsellor as being emotionally fit and ready to be a surrogate.

How do I choose which intended parents to work with?

You will want to work with intended parents you like and feel comfortable with. More than that, you will need to think about what kind of surrogacy relationship the intended parents are looking for, and whether that is what you want too. As you will be working closely with them before, during and after pregnancy, personalities are important to consider. Other things to think about are:

  • Will it be a straight/traditional surrogacy (where you will provide your own eggs) or a host/gestational surrogacy (where the eggs will be donated)? (At Brilliant Beginnings, we only support gestational surrogacy arrangements).
  • What kind of treatment are you prepared to have to conceive?
  • What kind of family would you like to work with?
  • Are they within easy travelling distance?
  • Do you have similar interests?
  • Does your family like them?
  • What kind of relationship, if any, will you want with your intended parents later?
  • How do you feel about ante-natal scans and screening? If there was a problem with the pregnancy, how would you deal with it?
  • Are you intended parents able to support you through the process, financially and otherwise?

As a Brilliant Beginning surrogate, we will help you find the right intended parents with our personalised matching process.

How long will it take?

There is no perfect calendar; each arrangement is different. You may find the right intended parents straight away or you may need to meet a few before finding the ones you want to work with. It is important to establish a good relationship with open lines of communication with your intended parents. Once established, you will undergo medical treatment prior to becoming pregnant and then hopefully have a successful pregnancy. Our strong advice is to consider this a long term, possibly lifelong, commitment.